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Design Your Own Business or Job . . .and stop getting more
of what you didn’t want in the first place!
By Lynea Corson-Hadley
If you feel stuck in a job or career that
doesn’t suit you, if you’re not happy and excited
about going to work each day, maybe it’s time to make
a change — because it doesn’t have to be that
way.
Two things stand between most of us and our
ideal business or job: First, we wouldn’t know it if
we fell over it. That’s because we haven’t taken
the time to design our ideal job. Second, our lives are strewn
with barrier beliefs — beliefs that prevent us from
getting what we want.
In designing your ideal job or business, you
must enlist both sides of your brain in creating the desired
reality. The left brain enumerates the criteria; the right
brain gets a sense of what the job would be like and then
sees it as a done deal. Most of us are good at the former,
not so good at the latter. We attend to the details and get
busy with all we have to do. Pretty soon we’re up to
our desktops in “do-do” and not a bit closer to
our goal.
Reaching goals takes a long time and a lot
of effort when you stay in the left brain. Don’t ignore
the gift of the right brain. Let your right brain energize
your goal, creatively find what’s missing and attract
it to you. Here’s how:
List what you don’t like about your
present situation and use "positive denials" to
eliminate attachment to those characteristics.
If you have a cup filled with coffee and want
tea instead, you must first pour out the coffee. The same
is true of your ideal business or job. You must empty your
subconscious of negative contents related to your present
job before filling it with the details of your ideal job.
Identify the characteristics of your present
job or business that you don’t like and want to “dump.”
Then write positive denials about them. Positive denials express
your refusal to buy into commonly accepted rules of the game.
For example, if you don’t like punching a time clock
(literally or figuratively), write, "I no longer believe
that I have to work 8 to 5 in order to have a high paying
job with a good future."
Here are more examples:
I no longer believe that I have to work 40 hours a week (60?
70?) to earn a good living.
I no longer believe that I have to put up with incompetent
people in order to get ahead.
I never have to accept boring jobs or assignments.
I never have to sit in commuter traffic in order to meet my
work obligations.
List what your job would be like
if you could wave a magic wand or twitch your nose and have
exactly what you want.
Write down the number of hours you want to
work, the type of clothing you want to wear, the time of day
or night you work most productively, the surroundings you
want to see (sleek high-tech, warm and homey), the sounds
you want to hear (silence, music, people talking, machines
operating, birds chirping, waves crashing), whether you want
to work alone or with others and how many others. If you’re
in sales, specify whether you like short-term sales that can
be finalized quickly or the excitement of contracts that have
to be negotiated through multiple stages and take months to
finalize. Write everything down — the more details the
better.
Illustrate it.
After you’re really clear about exactly
what suits you, illustrate it. Cut photos and graphics from
magazines and create a collage that represents the many different
aspects of your ideal job or business. Or do a single drawing,
it’s up to you.
Write positive affirmations about the things on your list.
Affirmations state the results you want to
achieve. Since your subconscious takes you literally, word
your affirmations as though you have already achieved the
results. For example, if you want flexible hours, write, "I
love being able to set my own work hours. I get a lot more
done this way."
Banish limiting beliefs.
Most of us structure our lives around beliefs
accumulated over the years and rarely questioned. Examine
your beliefs about work, career and money and discover the
ones that keep you in an ill-suited job or business.
For example, maybe you believe the adage,
"no pain, no gain," so everything worthwhile automatically
becomes a struggle. Or perhaps you believe that it’s
wrong to challenge authority figures so you don’t dare
go against your boss, even when s/he is wrong. If you own
your own business, perhaps you’re trying to run it according
to the dictates of the “experts” and feel constrained,
like you’ve been fitted with a corset instead of a company.
You need to stop doing what others tell you
to do. Be willing to go against authority figures. Like Sinatra,
do it your way. Above all, be willing to produce results easily
— to receive as opposed to earn. There are limits to
what you can earn, but no limits to what you can receive.
Be willing to have your new business
or job take an unplanned form.
Once you’ve specified in great detail
the characteristics of your ideal business or job and cleared
your subconscious of inhibiting beliefs, you’ll need
to develop an action plan targeting this new goal. Go ahead,
with one caution: Don’t allow an organized, sequential
left-brain focus to blind you to the gifts of your imagination.
Be willing to let the new business or job present itself in
a totally unexpected way. You may end up doing something completely
different from anything you ever thought you’d be doing,
yet find that it meets all of your criteria. That could be
pretty exciting!
Be willing to change your business
or place of employment.
If the type of work environment you desire
can’t possibly occur in your present situation, have
the courage to leave. Just as you must pour out the coffee
before filling your cup with tea, you may have to peel off
your present environment before the new one can take shape
around you.
Lastly, look at your pictures daily and
read the affirmations and denials.
Be open to surprises and watch how your ideal
position serendipitously appears. Only you know the truth
- it wasn't by accident.
Lynea Corson-Hadley, Ph.D., is an expert in helping others
break through blocks to reaching their goals in all areas
of professional and personal life. She is president of Life
Skills Unlimited, publishers of sales, health and educational
materials; an international speaker and trainer; and coauthor
of the book, The Secrets of Super Selling, from which this
article was adapted. Corson-Hadley was one of only twelve
people in the U.S. to qualify for the 1985 President’s
Honor Club with Success Motivation Institute, the world’s
largest personal development company.
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